The silence after an argument stretches longer than any other kind. Reaching out first stings your pride; saying nothing leaves you afraid the distance will set. Where is their head actually at right now?
By setting both charts against the present energy, we read the state their feelings are in since the argument - still hot, or already softened. Then we name when the door to making up opens most naturally, and the register of the first thing worth saying when it does. This reading does not decide who was right. Whether you move toward them or give it more time, that choice is always yours; this only makes it a little easier to sit with.
Check real-time reviewsIt even gives you the tone for the first thing to say, so I stopped agonising over what to writeFollowed the timing it gave for making up and the conversation happened naturally
It even gives you the tone for the first thing to say, so I stopped agonising over what to writeFollowed the timing it gave for making up and the conversation happened naturally